Finishing the Race

I am inspired this week to finish a race. A race that others started and didn't get to finish. Not of their own choice, but because of the choice of others. I was super motivated to run this week to honor those who didn't get to finish the Boston Marathon.

It also started me thinking about other races I have run that weren't quite so literal in pounding the pavement, but that were equally lengthy, just as challenging and sometimes feel unfinished. Tonight at my Weight Watchers meeting I told my members about some of my thoughts and encouraged them to finish their race. Stay the course. Many people walk through the door to my meetings with some sort of baggage or at least weight on their shoulders that they are working through. I think the greatest reward in the journey towards better health and wellness is the satisfaction of setting goals and achieveing them, knowing you can be the master of your fate AND shape. (As a note, when I realized I could actually change the shape of my  body through exercise, that seemed to open up a world of possibilities. What else could I change just through positive, small changes).

I hope I can echo the words of the New Testament Apostle, Paul, when he said "I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith." Timothy 4:7.

Chased By a Bear

Today 4 hours and 9 minutes into the 117th running of the Boston marathon, a bomb exploded at the finishline in Copley Square. And then another bomb exploded some 20 seconds later. Chaos errupted. Racers were diverted to side roads. Such sadness on such a perfect running day. My heart goes out to those who were injured and the loved ones of those who lost their lives. I also ache for those who worked and trained and sweat and cried and triumphed and then never got the chance to cross that finishline. I heard one report that most of those who were left in the race (which was actually a large chunk) were the charity runners. These are the people who were fighting more than a personal fight and had run to raise money and show support for a cause near to them. My friend Maren and her husband, Ryan, were running for their beautiful daughter Leah, who has Rhett Syndrom. They raised over $10,000 for Rhett Research! Maren made it to mile 25.5. She and all her fellow Rhett team were safe and accounted for. Maren has been my inspiration when it comes to running. I've been meaning for months to write this post about how I got into running. This post is dedicated to her.



 

(My husband and me running our first half Marathon in Salt Lake City, UT)

 

Chased by a Bear

 
In college my friend Maren tried to get me to go running with her. I'd tell her, "Maren, I will run if a bear is chasing me!" Secretly I think it was because she ran early in the morning and I am not much of a morning person. But she was persistant in asking. While I never did run with her in the time that she and I were neighbors, fast forward many months and a few moves cross country and a baby, to the breakthrough.

After some intense health problems and then getting pregnant, and struggling with my weight, I knew it was time to do something about getting a handle on my health. I could hear Maren in my head inviting me to go running. My sister told me to just go run a mile. I said, I don't think I can even run to the end of my street. Enter inspirational friend #2, Erin. I knew from my experience with Maren that I wanted to try running. We had just moved back to New York from a seven-month training assignment for my husband's work. Erin and her family had just moved to New York with her husband's job. She had been training to run a marathon and then found herself pregnant and scaling back. Some how we became running buddies.

I still can't believe the patience she had. We'd meet every day at our favorite park, pack our little boys in their strollers and run. It was so slow going at first. Again, I am amazed at how willing Erin was to run with me, the girl who would only run if being chased by a bear. First we'd walk and then run one minute. Then we'd increase to two mintues running. We'd gradually add minutes to the running and take away minutes from the walking. In a matter of six or seven weeks I could run a whole loop, about 1.5 miles, without stopping. And then I did two loops! I even hit three one day. There is hardly anything so satisfying as running further than you've ever run before.

Over the many months that followed I ran and exercised and lost weight and felt wonderful. But there was still that little voice called "Maren" in my head. After my second child was born, I knew it was time to heed Maren's call and I signed up for my first half marathon in Salt Lake City. I knew Maren would be there and I was excited to tell her I'd learned to love to run. In the training process she was so good at answering my questions and calming my nerves. Read this for details of the SLC race

I have now run half marathons in Salt Lake City, Utah; Hartford, Connecticut; had another baby; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina; Cape Cod, Massachusetts, and Troy, New York as well as a handful of other 5 and 10Ks. No longer am I the girl only running from bears. I'm grateful for the inspiring friends that told me I could do it when I wasn't sure I could. I'm grateful for the inspiration of my running friends who make me want to run hard and do good in the world. I'm grateful for Erin and her willingness to pay it forward. I've since trained with and ran two of those halves with friends who were really running for the first time. It's hard to express how proud I felt for them on the days that they ran further than they had ever run before. I'm so grateful for Maren and her steady heart. In the face of her own challenges, she ran on and told me I could, too.

You can read more about some of my running experiences on my post Heart of a Runner

Write On! Hope On!

For anyone who's been paying attention, you've probably noticed that I've blogged more in the past week than I have in, oh, the last year almost! At the beginning of last week I decided that I would set a goal to write something every day. And I nearly did (minus Friday--we were busy finishing our taxes for date night; lame, I know). I made the goal because I have recognized that writing is one of the gifts God has given me and if I don't use it I'll loose it. I'm not entirely sure why this is my gift or what exactly I'm supposed to do with it. But I do know that trying to do something is far better than doing nothing. And it's been a while since I've done much of anything. So forgive the roughness of this past weeks' writing and the writing for the sake of writing posts. I'm just going to share one thought today.

One inspiring message from church today came in the form of a hymn. We sang "We Thank Thee, O God for a Prophet." It's sort of too bad that we often see this as a song about prophets (which are great). But the meaning of the message is about trusting Christ. The second verse goes:

"When dark couds of trouble hang o'er us And threaten our peace to destroy, There is hope smiling brightly before us, and we know that deliverance is nigh. We  doubt not the Lord nor his goodness. We're proved him in days that are past. The wicked who fight against Zion will surely be smitten at last."

So much threatens to destroy our peace in the world. But we know that the Lord will watch over us. We can hope on! And we can do this because we have seen how he has delt with us and others in the past, and we can trust that if he did it once, he will certainly do it again. Equally powerful for me was the thought that the greatest reward that comes from following the prophet of the Lord Jesus Christ is happiness. That is articulated in the last verse "they who reject this glad message will never such happiness know." Oh that I could give that happiness to all I love and know.

So a new week begins. I really love Mondays. It feels good to start fresh. Tomorrow's post is going to be an outline of some goals I have for the next few weeks. There. I've said it and I can't NOT do it.

Beautiful

Victor Hugo can be longwinded. But some of what he writes is stunning. My book group is reading Les Miserables this month. I feel this great redemptive power, even a change in myself as I read this intricate story of revolutionary France. There are many words to live by, but so far in my reading my favorite passage is from the old bishop, Monseigneur Bienvenu: "Beautiful is as useful as the  useful.... Perhapse more so." This remindes me of the Article of Faith 13 that admonishes us seek after that which is "lovely, vituous, of good report, or praiseworthy." Beauty and seeing real beauty might be a virtue and skill of days gone by. I hope we are calm enough and slow enough to see those things that are beautiful and bring joy and peace.

Live Life Active

Spring means move more. And every Spring Weight Watchers launches a great challenge to motivate members to make a commitment to move more.Tonight I introduced the challenge in my meeting and got a great response. This is a great movitvator for me becuase I've had a hard time the last few weeks getting on my feet to go. I made a commitment last Thursday that I would find a race to run. I looked and didn't immediately find one that fit in my time frame. So I decided I'm going to make my own 10K. This is my public sign up to run a 10K on May 17.

The activity plan:

1. Run Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday (Maybe Thursday, too).
2. Do 30 minutes strength training Tuesday and Friday. 
3. Consistently use an activity log to record meaningful data.
4. Set a new activity goal in ActiveLink to keep me moving throughout the day, not just when I'm exercizing.  
5. Rest on Sundays, but do take a walk with my family around the neighborhood.
6. Try something new every few weeks (zumba?)

I'm Just One of the Ninty and Nine

 

Sheep show up in the scriptures a lot. Christ describes one parable in particular where a shepherd has 100 sheep and leaves the 99 in search of one that wanders away. We often talk about "the lost sheep" and the very real need to seek them out and rescue them.

But in all honesty, I never have been and hope never to be the One. There is a song I like by an artist named Michael McLean called "Ninty and Nine" where he beautifully describes the life of the imperfect but trying 99. I heard the song years ago and it really resonated with me. I was reminded of it again tonight by a friend. Below I've included some of the lyrics. I just love how attentive Jesus Christ is to me, even one of the ninty and nine and how special I am even when there isn't much that I feel makes me stand out or call attention. My favorite line is "Have you any idea how brightly you shine?" It is easy as a busy stay-at-home mom to feel like I'm just one of the crowd, nothing special. But that line. That line "have you any idea how brightly you shine?" Even if the only people who see me shine are the three little boys who most brighten my world, it is all worth being one of the 99.

I am one of the ninety and nine
I’m not perfect but basically I’m doing fine
I have not lost my way, I have not gone astray
I’m just one of the ninety and nine
I am here in the heart of the fold
I’m not mindless but I try to do as I’m told
I’m not tempted to run and become the lost one
I am here in the heart of the fold

...

I’m just one of the ninety and nine
I have stumbled and fallen, but I’ve kept in line
I’m not one he must seek; I’m not all that unique
I’m just one of the ninety and nine

...
(The Savior speaking)
You are one of the ninety and nine
Have you any idea how brightly you shine?
You are safe in this fold, and it’s time you are told
That I know where you’ve been so I know where you’ll be
Because all of your life you’ve been following me
You are more than just one of the sands of the sea
Or just one of the ninety and nine

You are mine, you are mine, you are mine
You are mine

I am one of the ninety and nine.   

I Can't Wait Until I'm Eight!

(The above picture is my own baptism day, May 1986. I'm the one in front in the green dress with the white pinafore and the puffy sleeves)

Tonight we took our oldest child to his "Baptism Preview." This is a short fireside of sorts where all the children who are turning eight this year are invited with their parents to meet together and learn a little about what to expect on their baptism day, logistics of how to prepare, and fun things to look forward to after turning eight.

I am having a hard time getting it through my head that I have an almost-eight-year-old child. When did that happen? He is mature beyond his years and really looking forward to this special day. I look forward to it for him. There is something really special about a child who is at that transitional age where they move into understanding real accountability. I loved my years of teaching this age group in Primary. They were so anxious to be good. I always want to live my life as happily and enthusiastically as eight year olds.

How to Date a Teenage Girl

 

Teenage boys are beyond me. On Friday I took my early morning seminary class to go rock climbing after they worked on a goal to memorize a certain number of scripture mastery scriptures. There were three carloads of kids, and somehow I ended up with ALL the boys. They are generally nice, polite boys who are also very diverse in interests and tastes. On the way home, one of the boys asked me what dating was like in my ward growing up. That launched into a sort of wild discussion about dances and girls and asking a girl out and a whole host of things I promised I would keep within the confines of my car. However, I thought about what I would want MY three boys to know about dating when the time comes.

First thing, follow the For the Strength of Youth  pamphlet produced by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. It will never steer you wrong. Be committed to waiting to date until you are 16. I read in a human development book that people typically believe they are ready, in their own minds, to marry four years after they begin dating. Spot on. Also, the advise to group date before your mission is sound counsel. It is so much more fun and so much less akward. Besides, if it turns out things aren't going so well with your date, there are plenty of other people you can interact with. Which leads me to the second thing.

Two, be as polite as humanly possible. To every. single.girl. You don't have to marry her, but she is a daughter of God! Royalty. Treat her with that kind of respect. I remember seeing my dad always open the car door for my mom everywhere we went, even just in the garage after we got home from church. My good husband is that kind of guy, too. Open the door on the way into buildings. Offer to let her go first if you are waiting in line for something. And never hesitate to say "please" and "thank you."

Third, speak highly of the girls you know. If there is one who's company you don't care to keep for one reason or another, don't dog on her. I promised the boys in my car last week that for every negative thing they could say (to their credit they didn't really say anything specific), I could say at least ten positive things. If you look for goodness, you will find it. One of my favorite scritpures is from the Doctrine and Covenants about how "light cleaveth unto light."

Fourth, while you don't have to marry this particular girl you are taking out, you will eventually marry the girl you are taking out. Please try to use good judgement when making friends and asking girls out. People of high standards will respect other people with high standards. But do have fun and don't worry early on so much about whether or not this girl is the one when you don't even have a driver's licence.

Fifth. have fun and try new things. You'll get to learn so much about you and your friends. My brother-in-law, Josh, and I call this high efficency dating. Do some sort of extreme things and that quickly weeds out those that aren't interested. This can be things like rock climbing, or hiking or offering to babysit your rowdy siblings or cook something.

Last, don't feel obligated to date and date and date, especially before your mission. Make friends. Learn to enjoy a good conversation.  It's okay to feel shy. It's okay to have lots of friends, both girls and guys. After you return from your mission, you'll have the chance to date for friendship and to eventually find an eternal companion. But, heck, have fun and don't rush it.

Did I say "have fun" enough? Those are my first off the top of my brain thoughts of dating. Dating can be a blast and a bust. But either way, learn from it and enjoy it and great things will happen. I'll look for the old LDS film called the Phone Call and that will really get your palms sweating.